Grieving and Loss Support

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Grieving and Loss Support The loss of an animal companion, whether due to death, being lost or stolen, or placement in a new home, may be one of the most devastating and painful experiences we ever face. For many, such a loss is as traumatic as losing a family member or a dear friend and can trigger an intense grieving process. Grieving for a loved animal is a natural and normal reaction and will vary from person to person. Shock, denial and feelings of anger and guilt are frequently felt upon learning our pet is terminally ill, injured or dead; these feelings may last minutes to weeks. Typically there is a sense of numbness, disorientation or unreality. As we struggle to come to terms with the reality of the loss, many of us will experience waves of grief and intense painful awareness, alternating with periods of exhaustion and automatic functioning. A sense of disorganization often represents the lowest point of the grief process. We frequently feel aimless, hopeless and depressed because of the void left by the loss. Reorganization and resolution of the grief may occur days, weeks or even years later as we work through our feelings and begin to rediscover and reconnect with life. As time passes, we can focus more on fond memories and less on the pain of separation. We may experience all, some or none of the above reactions and the timing and intensity of these feelings varies among individuals. It is important to acknowledge our feelings, whatever they may be, and give ourselves permission to grieve. When our animal companion is lost, a significant inner bond is broken. We become separate once again. The work of pet loss support groups is to create a safe environment for sharing our stories about that part of us that has died and to learn to reclaim a sense of wholeness within ourselves. The Pet Loss Support Group meets every Thursday evening from 6:30 to 8:00 p.m. There is no cost to attend, and there are two options to participate in the sessions—via phone call or online video call. Visit or call 303.539.7646 for additional information. Self-care measures for the bereaved • Attend a support group. • Don't be afraid of your feelings; be open to sharing them. • Exercise, eat right and get plenty of rest. • Involve yourself in activities that are comforting or enjoyable. • Avoid alcohol and other drugs that can intensify feelings of depression. • Manage one day at a time. How to support a friend in grief • As soon as you learn of the loss, get in touch; it is never too late to offer concern and support. • Silence is OK. There is comfort in quiet company. • Instead of cliches that might minimize the loss, simply say "I'm sorry" or "How can I help." It is helpful to talk openly about the loss. • Be accepting of your friend's feelings, whatever they may be. • Try not to be upset or uncomfortable if your friend cries. Remember that tears can be healing. • Don't be afraid to offer a hug to your friend. • Try to plan activities you can do together. If one offer is declined, don't be hurt and don't give up. • Be patient; grief is an individual process and resolution comes at different times for different people. • Remember your friend on special days such as birthdays and holidays, as well as the anniversary date of the loss, times when the loss will be more acutely felt. Pet loss support hotline numbers Staffed by Michigan State University veterinary students Tuesday - Thursday, 6:30 to 9:30 p.m., EST (517) 432-2696 Staffed by Virginia-Maryland Regional College of Veterinary Medicine Tuesday and Thursday, 6:00 to 9:00 p.m., EST (540) 231-8038 Staffed by Tufts University veterinary students Tuesday and Thursday, 6:00 to 9:00 p.m., EST (508) 839-7966 Staffed by Iowa State University veterinary students Weekdays, 6:00 to 9:00 p.m., CST (888) 478-7574 Staffed by Cornell University veterinary students Tuesday to Thursday, 6:00 to 9:00 p.m., EST (607) 253-3932 Iams Pet Loss Support Resource Center (888) 332-7738 The American Society for The Prevention of Cruelty to Animals 24 hours Stephanie LaFarge, Ph.D. (800) 946-4646 pin #140-7211 and leave your number Fax (212) 860-3435 Helpful reading on pet loss Especially for children Rogers, F., When a Pet Dies, Putnam Publishing, 1988 Rylant, C., Dog Heaven, Scholastic, Inc., Blue Sky Press, 1995 Viorst, J., The Tenth Good Thing About Barney, Antheneum, 1972 White, E., Charlottes's Web, Harper and Row, 1952 Reading for adults Anderson, M., Coping With Sorrow on the Loss of Your Pet, Peregrine Press, 1987 Fitzgerald, H., The Grieving Child: A Parent's Guide, Fireside, (1992) Kay, T., To Dance With the White Dog, Washington Square Press, 1990 Kay, W., et al, Pet Loss and Human Bereavement, Iowa State University Press, 1984 McElroy, S., Animals as Teachers & Healers, NewSage Press, 1996 Montgomery, M. and Montgomery, H., A Final Act of Caring: Ending the Life of An Animal Friend, Montgomery Press, 1993 Neiburg, H., et al, Pet Loss: A Thoughtful Guide for Adults and Children, Harper and Row, 1982 Quintana, M.L., Veleba, S.L., & King, H., It's Okay to Cry: Warm, Compassionate Stories that Help You Find Hope and Healing After the Death of a Beloved Pet, K & K Communications, (1998) Schaffer, D. & Lyons, C., How Do You Tell the Children: A Step-by-Step Guide for Helping Children Two to Teen Cope When Someone Dies, Newmarket Press, (1993) Sife, Wallace, The Loss of a Pet: A Guide to Coping With The Grieving Process When a Pet Dies, MacMillan Pub. Howell Book House, (1998) Traisman, E., My Personal Pet Remembrance Journal, Direct Book Services, (800) 776-2665, 1996 Web sites Human Animal Bond Trust The Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement Cornell University Pet Loss Support Hot Line

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