The Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement

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—Page 1— The Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement Volume 23 Issue 1 Spring, 2020 APLB is Spearheading into the New Roaring Twenties LATEST HAPPENINGS Our negotiations with Guelph University are coming to a slowdown. Now they want to own and take over our Online Training, as well as our First Responders class. That is not acceptable, and we now market these classes in another way. This is being worked on, and we will get back to you when we find a solution. Startup planning for our next conference has begun. We are still thinking of having it at some large hotel in Atlantic City, again. There are a few new ones and we will decide which is the best choice for us. So far, some time in the autumn of 2022 looks best. If you have any suggestions or contacts please write to our Conference Committee chairperson, Kathryn Jennings: [email protected] The terrible wildfires in Australia have devastated millions of acres of forests, and destroyed the homes of all the native wildlife trying to exist there. Some species may be forced to extinction. Colleen, APLB’s President authorized $200 to be sent to animal sanctuaries, as token of our support. We urge our members to also make donations. If you are able to donate, we recommend using the following website. Two new appointments to our Board of Directors have been made. Kevin Ringstaff will form a “Social Media” Committee and be in charge of pushing the envelope of APLB awareness in ways that will advance our ability to help bereaving pet lovers. Kathryn Jennings will now head a Marketing Committee give us the advantage we always needed. She will also be in charge of planning for our next conference. Dr. Sife wants to now thank those who sent him their condolences for the death of his beloved doxie, Phoebe. There were so many, and he could not handle the repetition of saying the same kind of thank-you, over and over, again. The time was much too emotional for that kind of involvement. He is now in the process of healing, and has just added her memorial to our website’s In Memoriam pages. PRESIDENT’S CORNER My relationship with the APLB is relatively short compared to so many of the volunteers who serve on the Board of Directors or in the chatroom. I took the Counselor Training Course with Dr. Sife in August of 2014. After completing coursework for two Masters degrees, I can safely say that it was more demanding than both of them put together! That certificate means a great deal to me because it galvanized my desire to help people through the loss of a pet. And, it gave me the skills to do so. Since January of 2015, I have served in the role of Deputy Trainer to Dr. Sife, working with him and Dr. Michelle Crossley, to certify other individuals for this much-needed role today. As a member of the Board of Directors since January, 2015, I discovered two things for certain: the APLB makes a difference in people’s lives, and secondly, we have a cadre of volunteers who work extremely hard. As I take on the role of President, a true honor, my interest and commitment to APLB staff and members of this Association center on three goals: 1) make our web- site the very best and most user-friendly it can be to help pet parents navigate loss and grief; 2) put together a professional conference where networking to strengthen the industry can take place; and 3) roll out our latest course offerings, First Responder’s Course, to a target audience of animal welfare specialists and caregivers. A word about my first task. The APLB received a request from a Maryland resident who was able to secure a bill which, if passed, would extend bereavement leave for employees after the loss of a pet. I wrote a letter of support on behalf of the APLB and, through a link watched as history unfolded. It has passed the first reading, and while it has a way to go before becoming law, if passed, Maryland will become the first state to recognize the significant role that a pet plays in our life. And, we would be part of that “first”! Find links to the actual bill on page 5. We need dedicated individuals to help us reach our goals. Why not join us in achieving them together? Stay tuned as we tackle them; look for updates to follow! —Page 2— Spring 2020 In Memoriam Our Honor Roll of Beloved Deceased Companion Animals These are new names, added since the publication of our last newsletter. All are now permanently posted with their photos, on our website’s Hall of Fame pages. To permanently add your pet’s memorial to this registry and Honor Roll, send $25 with up to 25 words and a clear color photo. This is a one-time charge. New listings will appear in every edition of this newsletter. Multiple family memorials are also posted, at no additional cost. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Baxter P. 05/08 – 02/02/20 Baxter, you had 11 great years traveling coast to coast and Hawaii, always were ready to go places. You are your momma’s boy and my night protector. I hope your running free chasing those squirrels. — Love Momma & Papa (Alice Ann & David Philippi) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Billy 02/02/10 – 01/01/20 I will never walk alone, you will be at my side always. Your paws have left an imprint on my heart forever. — Karen Jaques ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Goldie 01/18/03 – 09/28/19 Dearest, Goldie. Your presence in my life filled it with joy and happiness. You were my best friend and my love for you will remain in my heart, forever — Lynne Lohmeier ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Jobe (Vito) Crotty 09/01/05 – 01/31/20 My Jobe, my Jobe, the best cat in town. The best boy around. You’re handsome, good, and very smart. Jobe, my Jobe, you stole my heart. I Love you forever. — Mommy (Donna Crotty) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Phoebe Sife 03/12/04 – 02/22/20 My darling little girl. You loved to follow me around and snuggle against me. What a comforting bond we had! You are part of me, forever. — Your loving daddy, Dr. Wallace Sife ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Silk 03/08/04 – 09/02/19 Best girlfriend. My sunshine. Soul sister. I love you forever, baby girl. — Mom (Bonnie Patrick) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ APLB Quarterly Newsletter Wallace Sife, Ph.D. Publisher/Managing Editor Michelle Crossley, Ph.D. Editor Marina Resa, LMFT Assistant Editor Contact Us P.O. Box 194 Kawkawlin, MI 48631-2511 (718) 382-0690 [email protected] Visit our website on the Internet Webmaster [email protected] Officers Dr. Wallace Sife CEO Colleen Rolland President Debra Bjorling Vice-President Marsha Zimmer Treasurer Laurie Koen Secretary Board of Directors Dr. Wallace Sife, Chairman Ellie Waldron, President Emeritus Debra Bjorling Dr. Michelle Crossley Kathryn Jennings, CPLP, CPFE Marina Resa, LMFT Kevin Ringstaff Sarah Robinson Colleen Rolland In This Issue Latest Happenings & President’s Corner In Memoriam APLB is Changing Dr. Wallace Sife Help Don’t Hurt Internet Article Bereavement Leave Internet Article Hazards for Birds Internet Article Hospice Program Internet Article Membership & Contribution Updates Thank You Notes & APLB Corner Profile: Kathryn Jennings Experiencing the Shock Stage COVID-19 and Dogs P. 1 P. 2 P. 3 P. 4 P. 5 P. 6 P. 7 P. 8-9 P. 10 P. 11 P. 11 P. 12 —Page 3— OUR PLANET IS CHANGING AND SO ARE WE — Dr. Wallace Sife The world is changing fast, and we are part of that evolution. Only 25 years ago the Internet was a new and mostly unused phenomenon. Most people never even heard of Email – or even wanted to learn how to send one. Despite objections from most of my staff who did not have computers, I developed our first website, with the help of a generous “techie” who helped us set it up – pro bono. This would require time and lots of experience that nobody had. We were inventing an amazing new “wheel”. We then created the first online chatroom to help newly bereaving pet owners. There was no way of advertising this, so I sat and waited for three hours every Friday night, hoping somebody will discover it. A few years before, in 1989, there had been a memorable movie, “Field of Dreams”. In it the main character heard a voice saying, “If you build it they will come”. Well, I wasn’t hearing voices, but I felt that way, myself. So I built it all, and they slowly but surely did come. In those early years I prided myself on using this method, and welcomed bereaving pet lovers to visit our website. It was all one very slow step at a time. In the 1990s we were starting to devise this new spear, and we were its head. The APLB brought pet bereavement out of its dark ages. Things evolved very quickly, after that. At that time there were several well-intentioned people who started calling themselves pet bereavement counselors, and advertised their services on the new Internet. Most were not trained to help people, but wanted to promote their own personal ideas. There were some who offered to help, using crystals, aroma therapy, religious fervor, and more unusual methods, even bordering on the occult. On our new APLB website I challenged them all, and started setting standards for those who wanted to give advice in pet loss and bereavement. I expanded this new kind of counseling to include excellence. Something had to be said and done, and no other organization wanted to do that. The new APLB became known as the creator of pet bereavement counseling. Unfortunately, there are some powerful organizations that are now trying to challenge our right to use the word “counselor”, claiming that it should only be authorized by them. But because we started it all, that contention must be refuted. We do not call ourselves just “counselors”. We are pet bereavement counselors. There is a distinct difference. Our website made specialized usage of that designation years before they decided to appropriate “counselor” as their own term, and set their own important standards. The APLB’s right to continue using this term should be “grandfathered” into their regulations. We are currently working on that. If you can advise us, please contact me or Dr. Michelle Crossley: [email protected] Now, we are all witnessing the accelerating revolution that the Internet created. Everything keeps changing and growing exponentially. This won’t slow up, and with new innovations and inventions it is all morphing into a new “Age of Information.” Even newspapers are becoming extinct. It’s a brave new world, now. At the start of 2020 we are entering what I like to call “The New Roaring Twenties”. I love the metaphor. A hundred years ago that also indicated fast changes from how we were living, then. Look it up, to see the similarities. The world was starting to rapidly transform. But now we are on afterburners and rockets, flinging us ahead in ever-changing new ways. If we could see ten years into the future that would seem to us like science fiction. The APLB’s enthusiastic, young leaders are part of this new generation, and it is my last and most important job to dynamize them into creating and adopting new ways to promote what we are doing – and grow. We are no longer sitting, waiting for others to discover us. Now, we are reaching out, pro-actively. Our leaders are creating public awareness and usage of all that we offer (and will, in the future). New APLB committees have been formed, and their chairpersons have been put on our expanded Board of Directors. They are a new wave of modern achievers, who love the APLB. With their creative enthusiasm they are now taking us into the future. I am so proud of our APLB and its cadre of talented new leaders. Your supportive membership has enabled this to happen. It is expensive to run this kind of volunteer action, and your tax-deductible dues and contributions are helping us spearhead into these New Roaring Twenties. Please contact us if you would like to help us develop our ventures into the future of helping others who grieve for their pets. —Page 4— Helping Australian Animals Heal from Brushfires — Taken from the Internet Caring for Australian wildlife after fires, whether they’re injured or have lost their homes, is a marathon – not a sprint. It’s important to make sure our helping hand is actually helping and not harming. Since July last year, bushfires have burned more than 7.7 million hectares of southeast Australia, putting many threatened species at increased risk of extinction. Now that fires have been extinguished, surviving wildlife face other challenges, such as a lack of food, clean water and shelter, and more exposure to invasive predators. Australians have helped raise millions of dollars to support Australia’s imperiled wildlife, such as to set up triage centers and evacuate threatened species like eastern bristlebirds and Macquarie perch. But beyond the vital role of providing financial support, here are a few simple things individuals can do – and avoid – to help Australian wildlife recover. Animals need fresh water, but not from a bottle. Photos of well-meaning people offering water from bottles to animals, especially thirsty koalas, often go viral online. But this is not a safe way to help koalas. Animals must be allowed to drink water themselves, rather than us pouring water into their mouths. Animals, such as koalas, can’t drink quickly and poured water can fill their lungs, leading to potentially fatal aspiration pneumonia. Still, providing safe, fresh drinking water is one crucial and practical way we can help them as summer grinds on. This is particularly important since recent storms have washed ash, sediment and chemicals from burnt infrastructure into waterways, contaminating many catchments. Water should be stationed at ground level, in a shaded location safe from predators, and in trees for birds and tree-dwelling species like possums, gliders and koalas. Check out DIY guides for building drinking fountains, or “watering pods”, for wildlife. Sticks and rocks should be placed in the water to allow small species, such as reptiles, to climb out if they fall in. Water must be checked and changed regularly to ensure hygiene and avoid the spread of disease. And pets must be kept away from these locations (especially cats). What to do if you spot injured wildlife by the road. Authorities are searching the fire grounds for injured animals, and the public is reminded to avoid these areas until they’re confirmed as safe to enter. But if you happen upon an injured survivor, what should you do? First of all, call government agencies or trained wildlife rescuers, who can assist any injured wildlife. Many animals may be in pain and frightened and some, including kangaroos, koalas and wombats, are potentially dangerous if approached. In urgent cases, such as when an animal is in obvious distress or has clear injuries, some animals can be carefully caught and wrapped in a towel, then placed in a well-ventilated, dark and secure box for quiet transport to wildlife veterinary hospitals for care. Sadly, many animals are hit by cars during fires when they’re disoriented and panicked, and so it’s important to slow down in such areas. You can also check animals found by roads for injuries and surviving young in pouches, and call authorities to assist. But always be careful of traffic when attending to animals on roadsides, and help other drivers be aware of you by putting hazard lights on and wearing bright clothes. Don’t feed wildlife, especially not peanut butter mixes. With so much vegetation burned away, supplementary feeding has gained attention following fires in New South Wales, Victoria and South Australia. But feeding wildlife without expert advice and legal approval can do more harm than good. Feeding inappropriate foods like processed foods, over-feeding, providing unhygienic foods or food stations, and attracting predators to food stations, can all be fatal for native wildlife. Even some foods suggested online, such as bait balls (peanut butter mixes), can cause gastrointestinal issues for wildlife, potentially killing them. Similar issues can arise if wildlife are given some types of hay, vegetables, seeds, and fruits. Supplementary feeding isn’t advised unless habitat and sources of food have been completely destroyed, and is only appropriate as a short-term emergency intervention until natural resources recover. But leave it up to the experts and government agencies, which provide nutritionally suitable, specially developed and monitored food in extreme cases. —Page 5— Compassionate Companies Are Offering Employees Paid Leave For Pet Bereavement — Compiled from the Internet Our pets are our family members. That may seem weird to some people, but to pet parents, it makes perfect sense. Losing a beloved pet is heartbreaking and traumatic. Like any other loss, it requires time to grieve and to heal. In many cases, society at large doesn’t acknowledge that grief or allow us time to recuperate from the loss. However, some companies are changing that. Many are starting to offer paid pet bereavement leave. The Employment Rights Act 1996 gives employees the right to “reasonable” time off to deal with an emergency situation, including the death of a dependent. However, this is usually a spouse, partner, child, grandchild, parent or someone who depends on the employee for care. It is up to the employer how much leave to allow a worker and whether this period should be paid. There are big name companies like Mars, Inc., Salesforce, and Ben & Jerry’s that grant their employees time off to mourn the loss of their pets. Mars Incorporated, which owns pet nutrition company Mars Petcare, offers a paid day off for those who lost a pet, and "in some units, we also offer pet-ernity leaves" for those who acquired a new pet. Trupanion Pet Insurance and Kimpton Hotels offer paid pet leave up to three days for both salaried and hourly employees. Software company VMware allows salaried employees to take as many days off to "unwind, unplug, and take care of themselves and their loves ones," which can be used for pet loss. Some other companies, like Ben & Jerry’s, don’t have an official pet bereavement policy, but it’s company practice to allow employees to take time off. Having the time and space to grieve such and important loss can be beneficial for not only pet parents, but the children who are also losing an important bond. The hope is that more companies will start offering pet bereavement leave. It’s important that everyone have time to mourn the loss of their family members, even if those family members have fur. Maryland Legislation In most states, 'Pets' are considered property by law. Yet there are laws in the state of Maryland which are as serious as felonies for animal cruelty or misdemeanors for leaving a dog in a hot car. It seems to me there is a gray area where pets or 'domesticated' animals are concerned. There are several bills in the Maryland Senate and House that are being heard this legislative session. One in particular would provide for Bereavement Leave following the death of a companion animal. Here is specific information on the Bills: H.B. 712/ S.B. 260: Bereavement leave with pay for pet deaths Sponsors: Democratic Dels. Regina T. Boyce, Tony Bridges, Frank M. Conaway Jr., Keith E. Haynes, Stephanie Smith and Melissa Wells (Baltimore City); Mary A. Lehman (Prince George’s and Anne Arundel counties); Emily Shetty (Montgomery County); and Pat Young (Baltimore County). Democratic Sens. Mary Washington and Jill P. Carter (Baltimore City); Joanne C. Benson and Obie Patterson (Prince George’s County); Clarence K. Lam (Baltimore and Howard counties); Susan C. Lee (Montgomery County); and Charles E. Sydnor, III (Baltimore city and county). Synopsis: Allows certain employees to take paid bereavement leave in the event of a pet’s death. Analysis: For some, pets are like children or a best friend, and their deaths can be devastating, especially for those who live alone and who relied on the animal for companionship. While it is a hope that employers would be sympathetic to that and allow for reasonable leave following the death of a beloved pet per individual policies. However, pets are not actually family entitled to inclusion in the Family Bereavement Act. Adding them would require the creation of full-time positions within the Maryland Department of Labor to investigate an possible complaints challenging the definition of a pet and the bereaved’s connection to it. Click on the links above to see the status of both the House Bill and Senate Bill associated with the MD Family Bereavement Act. —Page 6— HAZARDS FOR PET BIRDS — Taken from the Internet Even if you do not have birds, please read the information below regarding carbon monoxide and pets. There are a number of things which we do, which can have a fatal effect very quickly on our birds, but on the other hand, there are accidents over which we have little control. This is a list of the most deadly hazards over which we may have some control. See links at the bottom for other hazards and general care. Cooking using appliances with non-stick coatings. There are many appliances sold which have non- stick coatings. These include but are not limited to: skillets, pans, coffee makers, oven drip pans, woks, grills, self cleaning ovens, stoves among others. Overheating, which can occur rapidly, causes fumes which break down the tissue in the birds lungs and suffocates them very quickly and under distress. Some ironing board covers, irons and other heating appliances such as heating lamps, electric heaters, hair dryers, curling iron, griddles, waffle irons, popcorn makers, roasters also have the same compound PTFE (like Teflon) on some of their parts. Do not iron in the same room as your birds. Also, when you buy electrical appliances which use heat, check labels very carefully and if still in doubt, contact the manufacturer. Sitting in direct sun with no shade. Never place a cage where it will be at some time of the day (all seasons) in direct line with the sun. Proper permanent shielding can provide some protection but simple heat buildup in a room can also cause death. Also, never leave a bird in a car, period. Leaving a window partially opened is not enough to prevent heat buildup, and leaving the air conditioning or heater on can have disastrous effects if anything goes wrong. Lack of water due to blockage, or insufficient refill. Water jars used for birds can become blocked by a piece of food or other cause, and remain unnoticed. We can even refill without being aware that it is blocked. Always have two water jars in a cage, and change water daily. Dehydration in a bird may not be noticeable until it is too late. Sometimes fatal dehydration in baby chicks may be caused by sour crop. Carbon monoxide. High concentration of CO can occur due to: incomplete oxidation when cooking on gas stoves; un-vented kerosene and space heaters; worn, incorrectly set, leaking, improperly maintained, or back drafting of gas dryers, water heaters, furnaces or other combustion device; a car idling in an attached garage, or from cars, trucks, buses on the street or parking lot near the window; improperly vented fireplace or leaking chimney, wood stove, charcoal grill, generator, lawnmowers, snowblowers or other yard equipment. Just to repeat, gas fumes from a cooking gas leak can be fatal to birds which are close to the source if they are in an enclosed space, or even with ventilation since there can be a buildup in certain places or currents of air can engulf the birds. If a leak is suspected, take the birds outside until the problem is fixed. Certain foods which have caused death and should be completely avoided. Avocado (guacamole), rhubarb leaves, chocolate, cocoa. Other products which should not be given are: onions, alcohol, milk products, tobacco, caffeine, or mushrooms. There are a number of plants which are toxic to birds. Fruit seeds, and in particular apple seeds which have amygdalin, a cyanogenic glycoside in them. The apple itself is fine. Just do not slice an apple in half with the possibility of slicing one of the seeds. Slice around the core. Cutting a seed, or giving the skin of the core which was touching the seeds should be avoided. The amount of cyanide is relatively small for us, but not for the birds. Also, be careful of other fruit seeds, in particular apricot, peach, nectarine, plum and cherry. Also, wood of these trees should not be used as perches. Birds are more sensitive than humans to agricultural sprays (insecticides, rodenticides and herbicides) which have been used on or around fruits, vegetables, and grains. Always wash fruit thoroughly and in some cases, peel before giving to birds. Plus, insecticides, rodenticides and herbicides used in or near the home can be very dangerous to birds. If you use any of the three latter in the home, it is advised to use one which is low in toxicity, or found to be non-toxic to wildlife. In any case, if you spray the rooms, remove the birds out until you feel it is safe to bring them back in. If birds are free in the house, take extra care with pellets, placement of treatments, canisters, traps, etc. One live roach is better than dead birds. He will thank you for it. For more information regarding Bird Safety, please visit ifyouloveyourbirds.html —Page 7— Hospice Program Helps Terminal Patients Keep their Pets so They can be with Them Until the End — Taken from the Internet Pets can provide a much needed companionship for the elderly who don’t have a lot of family or friends around them. In fact, pets have been shown to have great therapeutic effects that are being utilized more and more by hospitals, wellness centers, companies and individual people. However, one major problem for an older or a terminally ill patient is that the pets often become homeless when their human owner passes away. That’s where Pet Peace of Mind comes in. It’s a pet care company located in Salem, Oregon, that specializes in working with older and terminally ill people who can’t find someone to take care of their pets. The president of Pet Peace of Mind recently talked about their mission: “I know of countless patients who have said that their pet is their lifeline. Pets are great medicine for coping with the anxiety the comes from dealing with a serious medical condition. For many patients, keeping their pets near them during the end of life journey and finding homes for their beloved pets after they pass is one of the most important pieces of unfinished business.” What’s more, the pet care company also makes sure that people’s pets are always close by for visitations. On their Facebook page they’ve said that: “The Pet Peace of Mind program provides nonprofit hospices with a turnkey approach to help them train volunteers to help patients with their pet care needs, provides seed funding to get the program off the ground, and offers advice and assistance for the life of the program. People have come to bond with their pets in much the same way they bond with people,” The organization is largely maintained via donations and volunteers who help to not only take care of the animals but also make sure that they live healthy and happy lives. The volunteers take the pets for walks, play fetch with them, keep them groomed, and most importantly – do their best to re- home the pets after their owners have passed away. Pet Peace of Mind’s official position is that “Pets are treated and loved like family members and they comfort their owners much like a close friend or relative. It is no wonder then that during the end-of-life journey, pets can play a critical role. Unfortunately, as families deal with grief and loss during hospice care, pets may be overlooked, forgotten, or even ignored by family members unfamiliar with the patient’s bond with a pet.” Fortunately, the initiative is quickly gathering pace and more and more volunteers are joining in their efforts. To find out more about how you can volunteer for this program, please visit https:// —Page 8— We are a 501(c)(3) philanthropic organization. All dues and donations are tax-deductible. MEMBERSHIP AND CONTRIBUTION UPDATES Since the publication of our last newsletter, many individuals have joined or renewed their existing memberships in the APLB. We would like to thank everyone for supporting our much needed work. We want to express our special appreciation to those who have donated at the Platinum Angel, Gold Angel, Silver Angel, and Patron Angel levels, as well as those who gave Additional Donations. Please see our website’s Join Us Page for more information on these NEW MEMBERS Additional Donations Ford, Tracy Jacksonville, FL BASIC MEMBERSHIPS Auger, Mary Barrett, Cheryl Carver, Paul Cole, Patti Ford, Tracy Gambino, Robbie Gray, Douglas Hestvik, Carol Hurd, Jessica Langeman, Julie, DVM Long, Martin MacDonald, Carina Oliveria, Vicki Palmer, Gregory Phillippi, David Selzner, Alisha, DVM Simko, Sandra Slagowski, Milton Turner, Sheri Wang, Lily Monmouth, ME League City, TX Norwich, VT Clinton Township, MI Jacksonville, FL Salem, OR Whiting, NJ Ashburn, VA Negaunee, MI Calgary, Canada San Francisco, CA Vero Beach, FL Los Gatos, CA Salt Lake City, UT LaVernia, TX Highland, NY West Caldwell, NJ Fielding, UT Citrus Heights, CA San Francisco, CA Wright, Gayle Parker Ball, Carrie Boyer, Dr. Cynthia Clinch, Lori Elleven, Rev. Russell Freeman, Renee Hemsley, Kaitlyn Howe, Lisa, DVM Knoeplfer, Madison Layne, Penny Lynch, Diane Naidicz, Kristina Pallet, Pete Piccirillo, Emily Post, Susan Simonds, D Kathleen Straub, Sandra Woods, Lori Hillsborough, NJ Greater Manchester, England Voorhees, NJ Winter Haven, FL Chicago, IL Monrovia, CA Richmond, VA Hants, England Johnston, IA Irwin, PA West Palm Beach, FL Kenosha, WI Vancouver, BC, Canada Burlington, VT Savannah, GA Mesa, AZ Palm City, FL Greenville, NC Shaku, Christian Kaimana Honolulu, HI Van Cleve, Rhonda, DVM Tucson, AZ Gilbertsen, Aaron, DVM Longview, WA —Page 9— RENEWING MEMBERS Platinum Angel Elge, Kowalski Thunder Bay, ON, Canada Gold Angel Zeiger, Robin Silver Springs, MD Silver Angel Epstein, Carol and Ken Belmont, CA Patron Angels Dieppoise, Danielle Kitterman, Kristin Tilehurst, Reading, UK Santa Clara, CA Patrick, Bonnie Kaminski, Marta Lohmeier, Lynne Waddy, TX Brooklyn, NY Gautier, MS Additional Donations Goldstein, Ira Hedges, Patricia Jonson, Sophia Bayside, NY Los Angeles, CA Reno, NV Suarez, David Grant, Vivian Howie, Ann Kimbrough, Mona Brooklyn, NY New York, NY Olympia, WA Salt Lake City, UT BASIC MEMBERSHIP RENEWALS Axelson, Barbara Bailey, Liz Basner, Shannon Bickert, Gretchen Buckingham, Sandy Crotty, Donna Dickie, Erica, DVM Donovan, Karen Fletcher, Sarah, DVM Gaieck, Frederick Graiff, Brad, DVM Gregorich, Penny Haboush, Valerie Howie, Ann Junko, Pat Kimbrough, Mona Kuty, Maria Leonard, Laurie Martin, Michael Pare, Pamela Quency, Rene Rasmussen, Lacey, DVM Schwartz, Caryn Stamick, Kathleen Trevor, Nancy Wholey, Joanne Conyers, GA North Weymouth, MA Anchorage, AK Mesa, AZ Croghan, NJ Bayonne, NJ Sebring Ville, ON, Canada Lake Lure, NC Greensboro, NC Marysville, OH Gardena, CA Westerville, OH Plainfield, NJ Olympia, WA Guntersville, AL Salt Lake City, UT Felton, CA New York, NY Channahon, IL Williamsburg, VA Waterford, NY Deer Park, WA Needham, MA Fort Walton Beach, FL Weatogue, CT Bloomfield, CT Zeiger, Robyn Austin, Carol Bernier, Laura Best, Richard Rev. Dr. Boisfeuillet, Cindy Carlson, Katherine Cubeta, Katie De Rosa, Anna Dieppoise, Danielle Epstein, Carol & Ken Frankel, Lisa Glaeser, Brian Dr. Grant, Vivian Grossman, Lon Hedges, Patricia Johnson, Sophia Kaminski, Marta Kitterman, Kristin Lang, April Lohmeier, Lynne Palmer, Diane Patrick, Bonnie Ramsey, Jane Rosemore, Evelyn Simpson, Diane Suarez, David Urashima, Yuki Woods, Steve Silver Springs, MD Sylvania, OH Beverly Hills, CA Williamsville, NY Stamford, CT Oconto, WI Newton Square, PA Sherman Oaks, CA Tilehurst, Reading, UK Belmont, CA Los Angeles, CA Kenosha, ,WI New York, NY Drexel Hill, PA Los Angeles, CA Reno, NV Brooklyn, NY Santa Clara, CA New York, NY Gautier, MS Jackson, NH Waddy, KY Shawnee, OK Plano, TX Maple Park, IL Brooklyn, NY Chiba, Japan Reno, NV Dahlgren, Alexandra, DVM Maidens, VA —Page 10— Pet Loss Chatrooms Pet Loss Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and Friday nights from 8-10 p.m., and Sunday afternoon from 2-4 p.m., all Eastern time. Anticipatory Bereavement 1st and 3rd Thursday nights of the month from 8-10 p.m. Eastern time. Website Some Thank You Notes APLB Corner We are all in this lifeboat together. Each of us must do whatever can be done to help anyone else who is in bereavement for a beloved pet. Caring is so necessary in this wondrous encounter – which we all take part in during our own brief span, here. What we learn and then freely offer to others immeasurably enriches every giver, as well as the living memory of our pets. That’s what the APLB is all about. We want to share your experience, and grow with the input only you can provide. Reservoirs are filled by one raindrop at a time. Come, volunteer with us, and help make the difference. Video Clip Each edition will have a URL for what we feel will be an enjoyable brief viewing for you. We welcome submissions for future publications. Pets on Spring Break! Member Discount Turner Publishing is offering APLB Members who are vets or pet care professionals a 50% discount on bulk orders of “The Loss of a Pet”, Fourth Edition. Shipping is extra, and they are non- returnable. Contact Jonsie Holloway at [email protected] or call her at (615) 225-2665 Ext. 107 Newsletter Password Our password/username for the newsletters and send-a-card has been updated with the new website. Our new format automatically assigns each member a password. It is always the Email address you used when joining or renewing. That should make it easier to remember. “I really am so grateful for finding such an amazing support system. you all have such big hearts that have loved the most precious of souls. Thank you.” “Thank you everyone that's here, this was my first time and I am feeling maybe 1% better but its a lot for right now. I will still go and have a good cry, but now at least I have this chat to look forward to next time.” “Thanks everybody, this chatroom made me feel so much better and brought me some peace. It made me feel so connected in this struggle.” "Thank you all for being here, it helps to know I’m not alone in my grief, that others have loved their animals as deeply as I do." "Thank you all for your support and encouragement. I found your chatrooms a while ago, but didn't follow up. I am glad that I came back. You showed me that talking about my loss helped much more than I expected." “Thanks to everyone who is here, and listening. I don't feel so alone.” “It is amazing that our love for our pets has connected us. So thankful to Dr. Sife for starting this journey.” “Thank you so much for your kindness towards me and my loss of my companion - I truly appreciate it.” "When I come to your chatrooms I always feel better. Thank you so very much for being there for me and the others." "Thank you all for creating this safe space where I could talk about my loss. It helps to know there are kind hearted people in the world who ‘get it.’ God bless you all." "I’m glad I found this resource, and am looking forward to coming to these chats. I wish I was able to speak to you all during the days when I feel low." —Page 11— PROFILE Kathryn Jennings, CPLP, CPFE Since 2012, Kathryn has served as the Founder and President of Day By Day Pet Caregiver Support, a non-profit organization dedicated to providing compassionate support services to caregivers/ families. Day By Day serves thousands of pet families each year through the grief that comes before, during and after the loss of a beloved pet through various services including a 24/7 telephone hotline, in-person and online support groups, email support and individual counseling. Services for the organization also include veterinary team support as well. Day By Day is fortunate to be partnered with some of the most renowned veterinary specialty and referral hospitals along the Mid-Atlantic coast. Throughout her 27-year career, Kathryn has served on various boards of directors and utilized her non-profit, marketing/public relations and pet loss counseling experience in these roles. She is the former Executive Director, Board Member and Chairperson of Membership & Marketing for the International Association for Animal Hospice & Palliative Care (IAAHPC), Pals for Life, and the APLB. In these positions she focuses on increasing membership and providing educational and networking opportunities for the interdisciplinary association members in the field of animal hospice and end-of-life care for pets and support for families after a loss. Over the last five years, Kathryn has presented American Association of Veterinary State Board Continuing Education courses focused on companioning grieving clients (both adults and children) and compassion fatigue to veterinary staff as well as aftercare professionals both locally and nationally. She has presented lectures at many veterinary conferences and teaches 2nd year vet students at the University of Pennsylvania School of Vet Medicine. As a certified pet loss professional, she has attended and mastered numerous management training and leadership courses including Pet Loss & Grief Companioning. She has completed a Death & Grief Studies Certification from The Center for Life & Loss Transition and the Colorado State University. And, she will be completing her Master in Science- Grief Counseling in March 2021. Kathryn has been awarded distinguished marketing awards including four Women In Communications Crystal Awards and two Advertising Club “Addy” awards. She was also named Volunteer of the Year by Pals For Life, a pet assisted therapy organization. Originally from Northwest Ohio, Kathryn has lived in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania for the past 16 years with her three teenage children, husband Chris and 3 precious kitties named Bella, Lily and Penelope. As a new member of the APLB team, she will serve as Chair for Marketing, and will also chair our Conference Committee. Later Reflections on My Recent Stage of Shock — Dr. Wallace Sife This happens to everyone, regardless of how well-prepared we may be. I recently had to have my darling little dog euthanized. Despite my years of experience and self-training, an existential earthquake of titanic proportions happened. Suddenly there was a measureless gap I between us. My inmost feelings told me, "Now, I am in a state of shock, and my senses are stunned. That life which I cherished beside me is no longer there. For a short while I am becoming lost in a myriad of unremembered thoughts that come racing through my mind." There is a moment when death is so private it can not be shared with anyone else. It was so profound. After the visiting vet left at first it was best to just sit in silence with her lifeless body, not calling anyone for support. Nobody else could fully grasp this intimate feeling. I felt afraid to be alone, but I felt secure that her love would be there to comfort me. This seemed to last an eternity, and my brain went into survival mode. Later, the tears eased up and I came out of my confinement. I was able to share my anguish only after that. The bond never goes away. Even years later, I know that when I may think I am completely healed the shock will come crashing down to crush me. I’ll be swept up in tearful, loving memories and feelings. This special love will be with me, forever. Now, I am still in deep mourning, but I know my darling dog is with me. When I go to sleep, I can still feel her presence, beside me. —Page 12— Can Dogs Get Coronavirus? In early March 2020, the World Health Organization declared that the 2019 novel coronavirus is now a global pandemic. In the panic over the spread of the virus, people are worried not only about their own health but the health of their dogs and other pets. Dogs wearing face masks have popped up in photos across social media, causing pet owners everywhere to ask: can dogs get coronavirus? Dogs can contract certain types of coronaviruses, such as the canine respiratory coronavirus, but this specific novel coronavirus, aka COVID-19, is believed to not be a threat to dogs. The World Health Organization reported that there have been no reported cases of coronavirus in domestic animals. “At present, there is no evidence that companion animals/ pets such as dogs or cats can be infected with the novel coronavirus COVID-19,” their report says. The CDC says that “while this virus seems to have emerged from an animal source, it is now spreading from person-to-person.” The CDC recommends that people traveling to China avoid animals both live and dead, “but there is no reason to think that any animals or pets in the United States might be a source of infection with this novel coronavirus.” For now, pet owners in the U.S. don’t need to do anything other than follow basic hygienic precautions such as washing their hands with soap and water before and after contact with any animal. To reduce the spread of any germs, you may consider wiping your pet’s paws when they come in and out of the house with a paw cleaner and paw wipes. Dogs do not need a face mask to protect themselves against the novel coronavirus COVID-19. If you are still concerned or notice a change in your dog, speak to a veterinarian. And the most important protection of all: Under no circumstances should owners abandon their dogs, cats, or other pets because of COVID-19 fears.

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